My Husband had to be MR Mom!!!

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Last week My Husband had to play Mr Mom because I was sick. Can I please tell you how hard it was to let him be Mr mom because I am very hands on with my little Monster I am not the type of person who can stay in bed even if I am sick. Here is a little back story I hate not being in control because for so long I had no control but since I took control back I have a hard time giving it up. He did a very good job not like me but he got things done. This morning I woke up feeling much better not fully myself but I vacuumed and took back control it was so nice. My husband was very happy to give me back my Monster keeper status.

Why!!!!!

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Why do these Monsters always ask for their mom not dad? Why do these Monsters think it’s ok to bother moms in the bathroom but not dads? So here is the thing my Monster wait till I am showering, going to the bathroom, brushing my teeth or even just washing my face when they need something but my husband can do all that in peace. My little Monster will talk my ear off all day every time I turn around one of the Monsters are there. Don’t get me wrong I love them and I love that they want to tell me everything about the days they had but I would like to have just a fraction of the peace they give my husband. He comes home “How was your day” they give him it was good,ok,and great. Why is that???

When your a monster keeper!!!!!

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When you are a monster keeper you never seen to get a minute to yourself. I learned how to cheat the system I wake up early before everyone. I use that time to have my coffee in the quiet hours of the morning. This doesn’t always happen but when it does it is pure bliss quiet hot coffee moments are the little things that keep monster keepers going. So here is my question what is your pure bliss? Because I know that every monster keeper has one!!!

HOLY CRAP!!!!!!

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Holy crap

Holy crap my life changed with 4 little words MOM I got this!!! With these words so many emotions hit me my Monsters are slowly learning to be independent yes I have 2 teenage monsters but my youngest monsters will be 10 in 4 short months holy crap these 10yrs flew by!!!! My youngest Monster told me mom I got this and I just about lost it because he is my last baby and when my husband and I decided to stop having monsters I didn’t know that decision would come with so many emotions. I was not ready for this season of motherhood. I never listened when people said the time would fly by. I wish I did because man I miss those baby and toddler years. I love watching him learn to be independent but it is slowly breaking my heart! So here is my advice enjoy every single second of motherhood the good bad and the ugly because it is gone in what seams like a minute!!!!! Yes I know that I am a mom forever but you only have a little time when they are little. So I have a question do any of you moms out there have these kinds of emotions? Do any of the moms out there who have chosen not to have anymore Monster do you have guilt or this weird regret or are an emotional mess?

Family Time

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Family time? Our family tries to make time for each other but as the Monsters get older we are finding it hard and hard to have time together. I know that anytime I get with these Monsters is great. I love my little moments with each of them like my early morning talks with my youngest or my coffee dates with my oldest but my favorite time is with my middle Monster (shh don’t tell the other 2 lol) my time with her is my favorite because I never had a mother daughter relationship so mine with her is very important. Here is my question how do I make sure they are having enough time? I never had family time when I was a kid. I want my Monsters to know that they are important and that their time is important too. I know that my time with my 2 oldest Monsters is limited because in a very short time they will be off to college and their own lives!

When is it ok to lighten up!!!!

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My middle monster would like a little more freedom. My husband and have been fighting over how to handle everything from social media to curfew. I grew up with a very strict Grandmother I was not allowed to do much I also had a curfew till the day I moved (I was 20) My husband grew up with parents who were not as strict. Now I would like to give my monster some freedom with in reason because I know what kids who have strict parents are very sneaky and do dumb things like get pregnant young! (speaking from experience) My husband on the other hand wants to keep her on a very short lease! (lol) So here is my question how much freedom is ok? How In this age of social media how do I protect her because I know better than most that some people in this world are awful? (that is the nicest word I could use) I want to let her learn from her own experiences but I also want to protect her! So how do you give your 15yr old Monster freedom that we can both agree on? I also don’t want my middle Monster to feel like we are giving her brother who is only 15 months older then her more freedom. I also understand that what works for one might not work for the other! I also understand parenting is not one size fits all! I have another question but this might cause some controversy. How do I stop my husband from being sexes? He thinks our oldest monster should get more freedom but our middle monster not so much.

Back to school

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My little Monsters started school this week. They started in person school for the first time in what seams like forever! To say they were nervous would be an understatement. My oldest Monster who’s personalty is “I don’t give a fu**” did not sleep the night before and was very quite the morning of school which if you know him that is not like him at all. The youngest Monster woke up saying “mommy I think I am going to throw up” he was also very quiet. My husband and I took our youngest Monster to school he held my hand and was shaking . I didn’t realize how much covid has effected these kids something that should be a very exciting thing is now turned into a scary thing because of the unknown. My only hope is that these are not the things that these kids remember when they tell stories to their children I hope this is a very distant memory. Our middle Monster just fell right back into her regular routine. She has been in person school the whole time.

Monsters Living in a Fantasy

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My little monsters are living a fantasy world!!!!!!!! My little monsters have no idea!!! They think everything should be handed to them. I asked my oldest teenage monster to make his little brothers bed.(his brother is 7 and has special needs) He the proceeded to tell me that I don’t sleep in it why do I have to make it. I said “well I don’t dirty all the laundry and dishes but I still have to wash them” to which replayed “that is your job right” I could have spit nails this little monster has no idea what it is like and believe me we are trying to teach him how to be an adult. When he is told to do chores he always tells my husband and I we are awful parents because none of his friend have chores. Is this a thing? I have always had chores. My little monsters don’t have as many chores as I had at there age. The 14yr old monster has to clean 2 toilets and sweep a kitchen floor and keep room clean. When I was his age was cleaning the whole house. This little monster has no idea. So here is my question why do kids theses days think they don’t have to do chores or contribute in anyway to the house? Why do they think because there mom stays home I should be doing everything? We are creating lazy in-tilted monsters. I am worried about his age group as a whole!!!!

New Years Resolutions

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I started this year off like almost everyone I want to loose weight be a better person love more read more all of theses things. This year I made a hard resolution for myself believe me I know how easy this is going to sound to most people but when you are a stay at home mom this is hard to do. I made the resolution to get dressed do my makeup and hair everyday no matter what. Today I am 13 days 2 colds sick kids home flu going around and I have been doing it. Every day since Jan 1 2020 I dressed and I have done simply makeup and hair. I get that this seams easy and some are thinking OMG she is a lazy slob. when you are a stay at home mom and a 1 car family you can get into ruts last year most days I put my youngest monster on the bus in my pjs most days I had no reason to get dressed where was I going what was I doing. When I think back to last year this my be the reason why I was unhappy with myself. SO this year I made a promise to myself that I would take better care of myself. I wanted to do this for myself. My little monsters and husband have told me that they noticed a difference they said I seem happier!!!

New Year New Life

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I know this sound so cliché. This year I am choosing to do and be better!!!!!! I want to make small achievable goals because I have learned that when you make large unachievable goals you set yourself up to FAIL. This also sets you up to hate yourself!! I like everyone else want better. I want to be a better wife, mother to those amazing monsters, sister, and just to be a better ME because without choosing me I can’t be better at theses other things.

HERES TO A GREAT YEAR!!!!!!!!!